The entire world revolves around story. With any behavior, there is a story to rationalize it, whether it comes before or after the fact. It may not make sense to anyone else, but the story that’s flimsier than a Swedish pancake makes sense to the person doing it. We want something and then develop a story to fit that narrative.
Where the story often crumbles like a house of gingerbread cookies is when you have to explain the behavior to someone else.