When you don’t give someone honest feedback, it’s usually generated by a selfish desire to avoid conflict and not hurt another’s feelings.
But it isn’t nice.
It’s much closer to being mean.
What that person needs is a kick to get better.
If people keep telling them that they’re doing good work, but they aren’t – it’s damaging.
We all need honest feedback. Sometimes the feedback is wrong. Often there is a grain of truth.
But “being nice” doesn’t help anyone but yourself.
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